sleepless nights.
05 November 2009 12:26:00 AM
only perfect lullabies give sweet dreams.its not as easy i thought. i'm taking it as each day passes. being surrounded by my friends keeps me pre-occupied. but when i'm back in hall, my mind starts to wander. its a mixture of feelings which can't be put into words. Please let me have a good night's rest. Perpetual headache and i've gotten the flu bug )):
good night goodnight. say goodnight and go.
and i just realised its the
5th of the month. rings a bell in my head...
Was just visiting some
peggy chang's blog and i chanced upon this webby. just random but what ever it says is so true. haha interesting. the
webby has so much other random stuff but i didn't bother to explore.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
No relationship is perfect. However, there are several serious pitfalls that will end a relationship very quickly if you don't try to avoid them. The 10 items below are some of the most common and serious mistakes than can keep you from having the lasting relationship you want.
1. Cheating. Being unfaithful is the number one way to end a relationship. If you want to see someone else, be responsible enough to end your relationship first. Anything else is just being dishonest and cowardly.
2. Hanging on to Your Ex. While it's very important to remember your past mistakes, it's also important to move on. If you're still hung up on your ex, perhaps it's too early to start a new relationship. Even when you think you have no feelings left, if you're stuck in a pattern of bringing up your ex all the time when you talk with your new partner, you should do some serious thinking about where you've been and where you're heading. Your current partner deserves your full attention. It's only fair.
3. Rushing Things. Relationships develop at their own pace. Some move quickly, others move slowly and steadily. If you push your partner too much, you risk pushing them away. Two prime examples of this are the timing of physical intimacy and saying "I love you." Both of these things are best when they happen naturally. You'll both know when the time is right and the relationship won't be strained.
4. Being Ruled by Jealousy. Often feelings of intense jealousy are caused by past relationships. If your partner is open and honest, you shouldn't feel threatened by incidental contact with someone else. Conversation and interaction is normal. Trust is also important. If you become jealous with your partner without real cause, it can seriously harm your relationship.
5. Focusing too Much on the Future. When relationships are new, it's not the time to dwell too much on the future. Live for the day. The flush of excitement of a new relationship only happens once. Instead of worrying about what's coming next, enjoy what you have now. Often when one partner is too concerned about the future, the other partner is scared away thinking that they are too serious. Again, live for the moment and enjoy where you are.
6. Failure to Balance Friendships With the Relationship. It's important for each of you to have friends. People often take things very personally when someone talks badly about a friend. Because of these two things, it's critical to allow your partner time with and for their friends while avoiding talking badly about them. No one is perfect - most of our friends have quirks. Just remember that your friends can be a little strange, too. Finally, don't feel threatened when your partner wants to do something with their friends.
7. Failure to Communicate. Open honest communication is one of the most important things in a healthy relationship. When you keep secrets or even feel too embarrassed to discuss your thoughts, it can build walls between you and your partner. Yes, there is a risk that your feelings or thoughts might end up causing problems in the relationship. However, if there's a break-up because you're not compatible, that's OK. In fact it's far better to find that out than to pretend you're something you're not.
8. Forcing your Partner to Change. This is the flip-side of #7. If you can't accept who your partner is, you probably should find someone else. When you force your partner to change, there is often resentment and the changes rarely last. Even when a partner has a real problem, we can't "fix" them. We can encourage, but if they don't commit to the change on their own, it just won't happen.
9. Blaming Your Partner. A relationship takes two people. So do relationship problems. It can be very difficult and often painful to admit our part in relationship problems, but an honest look at our actions is critical. If you expect your partner to face the blame for a problem all alone, don't be surprised when they don't want to do anything else with your either.
10. Staying After the Feeling is Gone. If you're just going through the motions in a relationship, your partner knows it. If the relationship is worth saving, you both need to talk and find a way to reignite the spark If not, you should be honest enough to admit that the relationship is over. Often we're stuck in these ruts because the uncomfortable "known" seems better than the scary "unknown." In reality, a flat relationship will not last, and will often lead to serious conflict.work it out.
what ifs, what not, would you?
01 November 2009 4:53:00 PM
in the end, its still so painful.we all dream of happy endings. we all dream of fairy tales. we all dream of great dreams. no one wants a painful ending. but somehow, we will go thru' it if not how are we gonna overcome greater hurdles in life?
i have no idea if we/I have made the right decision. thinking back, yeah, maybe i regret, but either ways, would it have been better? giving the 2nd chance for us to try again, guess i couldn't even give you a concrete yes or no. being paranoid due to the past, i couldn't give my all, prioritized other things, but still needed assurance from you. you tried, but didn't get what you need and decided this would be the best for us. i agreed as i didn't think there was any other option, i couldn't promise or commit anyway..my feelings kept fluctuating, i don't know why..i kept holding back my emotions, kept holding back all the sweet-nothings that i wanted to say to you in order to protect myself from being hurt again. i was afraid that i would be saying things i didn't mean. freak the paranoia. you didn't get the needed assurance from me but at the same time i was hoping for more assurance & effort from you. slowly, i pulled myself away, withdrew myself. just within one week, everything changed. i know it hasn't been easy for you. i guess you were prepared for it too. i don't know what the future holds. it hurts that you're being firm bout this, since i'm the softy kind. but it will definitely help us to move on from here. i never thought i would be that affected by this. this seriously sucks. exams in 2+weeks ARGH. its not helping.
what if i can't? what if i don't have the strength to?
happy belated b'day, ilu.
suitcase.
19 October 2009 4:51:00 PM
long weekend, accomplished the least )):i accomplished the least dis wkend, despite it being a 3 day weekend cauz of Deepavali. how niceee. but on a lighter note, i got myself some great stuff during the wk end!!! after church, i bused down to queensway/anchorpoint to buy my sport shoes. i learnt from my sis that the lifespan of sports shoes is 2 years. well the effectiveness will wear kinda wear off after 2 years. but my sole is alr coming off a lil. i got myself a SUPER CUTE SUITCASE from anchorpoint. there were 20 pieces of it only going for
10 bucks (HOLY COW, original price is $50++)!!! can u believe it!? tho i don't reali think i'll haf any use for it (hmmm, maybe I could bring it on those 3D2N trips!!), but i just had to get one!! Thank goodness i reserved it and came back to collect it after i bought my sport shoes. cauz by the time returned to the shop (<30min later), all the cute suitcases were gone! other cute designs available too, go visit anchorpoint ((: i was just so eggcited & exhilarated over my great buy throughout the entire journey home, with my suitcase sitting beside me :D yeah, as happy as a retard :D
the suitcase which made me smile lika retard :D:D:D
aniwae, i met up with my 15 Minutes Cafe colleagues last Fri nite. i missed out pre-Sentosa + Luge with em in e afternoon )): it was just a simple foodcourt dinner and hang out over-watching the sea at Vivo's upper deck ((: i neva laughed so hard in a long while.. it kinda made me miss the crazier, livelier me. i neva imagined myself sitting with these bunch of ppl, from diff walks of life, of diff age groups and backgrounds, having HTHT and LOL. Naz was the joke of the nite. making everything clean seem dirty, when he meant pure innocence. i seriously love these bunch of ppl. i wish we all of us could still work tgt... but the environment at 15 Minutes ain't the same anymore...
<3 my cafe ppl ((:
e ONE and only WAN. e biggest joker ard :D
jul, tim and lena da jie (ah lian).
Sam the suffering army boy and Naz the gay boy!
KELIN!
my dearest CHERYL!
8 modules. one more month to exam. still got two more presentations to clear. )):
not in the mood to study too. this weekend has whizzz pass me.
i shall try to get my work done heh..
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SHERYL (the 21 year old 2-DIMENSIONAL woman. hee hee).
hope to play touch rug with ur soon lovely ladies! <3<3<3
in a bad mood. pms perhaps.
Bitter Heart.
05 October 2009 9:33:00 PM
Bitter Sweet. Roller coaster rings.Its lika dagger thru' my heart. It sinks so low till all the internal body parts feel weighed down by the excess baggage.
i wanna feel colourful again. and just as I tot i was finding myself again, dat craziness in me, i wanna laugh out loud like neva before. argh, oh so random...
this is colourfully mismatched ((:
smile for the days are gonna get beta.
why, tell me why? i don't understand.
24 August 2009 1:20:00 AM
i see myself crying again when i finally though, no more tears shed. its harder than i thought and i don't think its gonna be easier in the days to come.
please keep me strong, please.
push on.
everything's wrong.
20 August 2009 11:37:00 PM
smile, for the days are gonna get better ((: (More) Egregious offences the MRT should be fining people for.
Heh, a rip off from 8 days. I think its damn funny!!!
So the MRT folks are so strict about eating on their trains that they'll fine you for just sucking a sweet. Surely there are more important and annoying offences that they should be going after?
1) Possession of smelly armpits when raising arms.
2) Pretending to be asleep when a pregnant woman boards the carriage.
3) Singing along to your MP3 player.
4) Leaning your whole back against the pole.
5) Falling asleep and letting your greasy head fall onto your neighbour's shoulder.
6) Possession of annoying ringtone.
7) Spreading legs excessively wide and squeezing your neighbour.
8) Publicly addressing your girlfriend/boyfriend by their pet-names, e.g. "Honeybumples", "Kuchipoot", "Ong-Ong", etc.
9) Attempting to read people's newspaper/magazine/iPhone over their shoulder.
i tot i wld be fine.
broken.
15 August 2009 9:37:00 AM
fighting to be strong, but it isn't as easy as i tot.it will take time for us to move on from here.
its gonna hurt a lot.
its not gonna be easy.
but I will fight hard to be strong, if not stronger.
you too right?
you know you're still in my heart.
we don't know what the future holds for us.
for now, we'll let go and walk on by.
and it was said: "bye bye blackbird."
i only wished for the best in you and for you.
my heart tells me to run back into our arms.
but somehow i have to stand by my decision.
yes i am confused.
everything's just too painful to swallow.
i think about it all day and night.
i think about you, i think about us.
tell me how am i going to alright.
that was the breaking point.
if only you treasured me more.
why?
